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Serve and lead — really?

As you may be aware, there are volumes written on the topic of being a servant leader. Perhaps one of the first works came from Robert Greenleaf's book "Servant Leadership: a journey into the nature of legitimate power and greatness." I must confess for quite a while when I thought about servanthood, I had a vision of an activity performed by a relatively low-skilled person. My "old school mindset" assumed that if we serve, people will have a lesser view of us. Over the years I have come to learn that couldn't be further from the truth. To prove the point, think about a mother. They naturally serve their family members. Mother's are typically the one person in our life [...]

By |2021-05-05T11:51:30+00:00May 5th, 2021|Connecting, Leadership|0 Comments

Stay curious and seek connection. 

My friend and mentor John Maxwell said it best with this quote, "Good leaders ask great questions that inspire others to dream more, think more, learn more, do more and become more."  What is the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word conversation? The answer typically is talking. Guess what? Did you know that 80% of a successful conversation involves listening? Great conversationalists have one thing in common. They ask questions that draws others out. Why is that? Well, it is a simple truth: people like to talk about their favorite subject, which is themselves. In order to have a great conversation, I've come up with an easy technique called the 2C's: curiosity and connection. Be curious: [...]

By |2021-03-17T12:14:36+00:00March 17th, 2021|Coaching, Connecting, Development, Listening|0 Comments

Make the other person feel “felt.” 

Over the years I have learned a powerful truth I would like to share with you. Inside every person, regardless of importance, fame, or future is a real person who needs to feel "felt." As leaders, when we satisfy that need we are well on our way to connecting in meaningful ways. Making someone feel "felt" simply means putting yourself in the other person's shoes. I know that is so basic, well folks, it is sticking to the basics that usually wins championships and grows businesses. So many times in our busy day-to-day lives we are too fragmented to take the time to connect and make them feel "felt." Psychologists refer to a concept called mirror neurons. This when you [...]

By |2021-03-10T13:16:42+00:00March 10th, 2021|Coaching, Connecting, Leadership, Listening|0 Comments

How’s your equipping?

All leaders desire to have high performance winning teams. As you well know, it all starts with selecting the right people and putting them in the right seats. The next step is to be certain they are properly equipped to get the desired results. My friend and mentor John Maxwell states,"We must CARE for them in order to equip our people." Communication Affirmation Recognition Example Additionally, I have found we must provide certain resources in order to equip them best. Ask yourself the following questions: Is my environment conducive for growth? Do I have a training environment? Do I have an accountability process? Once you have identified their strengths, fight to keep them in their strength zone. Manage their weaknesses, [...]

How’s your teachable spirit?

Learning is a lifelong pursuit. To effectively lead (and influence) others we must be continually learning and remain teachable. Legendary basketball coach John Wooden said, "It's what you learn after you know it all that counts." It's true; we have so much to learn no matter how advanced we may be. The question for the leader is, "How teachable am I?" We need to continually have "instinctive curiosity." Every situation, circumstance, engagement has teaching moments -- but we be present to notice the opportunity. For established leaders, we must often overcome one major obstacle -- that obstacle is called pride. We must guard against all inflated and eliminate the "I'm superior" mindset. Staying humble and looking for learning opportunities in every situation [...]

By |2021-03-03T19:59:27+00:00February 24th, 2021|Coaching, Connecting, Development, Empowering, Leadership, Listening|0 Comments
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